Choose A Memorial Stone That Represents Your Loved One

The first few days after losing a loved one can feel like a blur. Not only are you in the thick of grief and loss, but there are so many things you need to arrange, from funeral planning to letting people know of their passing. 

You also need to choose a memorial stone to go at the head of the coffin if you are having them buried. Although you might be overwhelmed by choices at the same time as being in a state of shock, the most important thing is to design a stone that best reflects their personality. 

They might have loved gardening, for instance, in which case you could put roses on their tombstone. Alternatively, if they were religious, you could get a cross engraved, or if they were big animal fans, some people choose to have an image of their cat or dog on the stone. 

When it comes to deciding what words to put on it, you need to consider what to have as the top line. 

The Co-op Funeralcare says the most popular line is “In memory of” though there are lots of other options. 

Then more personal words can be chosen after the name and dates are added to the memorial stone, saying something about who loved them. This could be something like “Much loved mother and daughter” or “Treasured by family and friends”. 

There are no rules about what other inscriptions to put on a headstone when it comes to non-religious cemeteries, so you can choose whatever you want. This could be a few of your own words, a short poem, a quote, or some religious words. 

Vera Lynn’s “We’ll meet again” is a popular choice, as is John 14:6 “I am the way, and the truth, and the life”. 

There are many ways to personalise a headstone, so think carefully about what the deceased would like and what would best remind those visiting them of their character and legacy.